THE SACRED PURPOSE OF FEAR

Anger serves two important roles: first, it lets you know your needs are not being met. Second, it reminds you that you have the energy and power to influence the outside world to get those needs met.

GET OUT OF THE WAY, CHANGE

Our relationship with fear stems from childhood. As children, we had needs and tried to express them through anger or tantrums. When our attempts to communicate were shut down, we turned to fear. Fear led us to suppress our needs, silence our voices, and exile our desires.

It makes sense that fear feels like self-sacrifice. But today, with physical agency and safety, we can choose differently. We can move from safety to risk and expansion.

Yet, many of us experience fear as a prison—a place where we feel trapped and powerless, where our ability to influence the outside world disappears.

This is the guidance of fear: it tells you that your needs are not being met, and to meet those needs, the action required isn't to change the outside world but to change something within yourself. When you realign with your sacred needs, fear dissolves.

INNER CHANGE

Imagine standing on a train track with a train speeding toward you. You scream at it to stop, using all your anger to influence the train—but it won't stop. You have two choices: stay where you are and be crushed, sacrificing your need for safety, or move out of the way, choosing life. In both cases, the change is within you. One choice denies life; the other affirms it.

In the face of fear, there are always two voices: one that is life-affirming and one that is life-denying. Let's look at another example.

You need money and hope your hard work leads your boss to give you a raise. Anger may push you to ask for it. If you're denied, fear appears. It says: to meet your need, you must change something about yourself.

Either shift your belief about needing the raise or change jobs to realign with abundance. Again, the change is within you.

Fear feels uncomfortable because the change it demands is internal. In this way, fear is close to death—the death of a part of you. It might be the part satisfied with crumbs, the part that stays silent, or the part that settles for less. This death is an identity shift, and that is why it feels scary.

Fear always presents two paths: one restrictive and denying growth (choosing security over desire) and one expansive, which leads to healing and evolution. This duality can be seen as yes vs. no, safety vs. risk, or contraction vs. expansion.

Self-hate or self-directed anger is often fear in disguise. The inner voice saying, "You're so stupid, why did you do that?" isn't trying to influence the outside world—it's attempting to change your internal world. For example, if you procrastinate on an important project and later berate yourself, the harsh self-criticism is not productive anger but fear. It could be fear of failure, fear of judgment, or fear of not doing it perfectly. This form of fear leans toward contraction. However, you have the choice to shift toward affirmation and expansion.

Exercises to Deepen Your Relationship with Fear:

Exercise 1: Mapping Fear's Message

Identify a current fear you're experiencing.
Reflect: What need is this fear pointing to?
Explore two paths:
- Path of Contraction: What would it look like to avoid or suppress this need?
- Path of Expansion: What change within yourself would help meet this need?
Journal your reflections and notice which path feels more aligned with your deeper self.

Exercise 2: Dialoguing with Fear

Sit quietly and imagine fear sitting across from you.
Ask: "What are you trying to protect me from?"
Listen and write down fear's response.
Then ask: "What would you have me change within myself to feel safe and fulfilled?"
Reflect on whether this change feels like a life-affirming choice or a life-denying one.

These exercises are designed to help you uncover the sacred information fear carries—guiding you toward growth, healing, and alignment with your true needs.

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